Don't disown kids over DNA test results - Woman advises men
A provocative statement shared by a netizen has ignited a heated debate across social media platforms. The statement advises fathers who discover their children are not biologically theirs to keep this information a secret and continue their fatherly duties to avoid traumatizing the kids.
The statement, which has quickly gone viral, reads:
“If you ever find out your kids aren’t yours, I think you should keep such information away from those kids and continue your fatherly duty. These kids grew up knowing you as their father, now imagine how traumatizing it would be for the kids when you boldly face them to tell them you’re not their father or call them ba$tard. You can divorce your wife or something but do not involve the innocent kids, give them other reason why you’re divorcing. A child should never find out you are not the father especially a grown up one, you’re basically destr0ying that child’s life by doing so. It’s the mother who faulted not the innocent kid.
After fathering a child for so many years and you later find out they not yours, you should continue with the relationship, sort things out with your wife privately and move on with your family. An exception to this is only if you detected when the child is still a toddler.”
Reactions :
The post has sparked widespread debate, with many people sharing their own perspectives and experiences. Some agree with the sentiment, emphasizing the emotional well-being of the children involved. Others believe that honesty and transparency are essential, arguing that the truth will eventually come out and could cause even greater harm if revealed later.
Eric: I have 3 kids. 2 are almost adults now. If I ever found out any of them weren’t mine, biologically, I wouldn’t stop being their father. Love them more than life. But I would tell them. They deserve to know the truth. They would deserve to be able to find out who their biological dad is. Maybe be able to have a relationship with him some day. Life is short.
Babygirl4life: Is the father not human too, wont he be traumatized as well when it happens to you brother advise him this way
Wagon: Definitely, the most matured and human thing to do… The child I have raised with love and made so much bond is my child, I would do everything to protect those little Humans
Dickson: You think it’s that easy for someone to find out such thing and keep it. Except he is the problem to not having kids and that’s fine but long as he is capable and can produce I will never support this your take. Let him tell them the truth, make everybody know their place
Realest : Let’s put the man’s feelings into considerations too. It’s rare to see a man who’d want to go this route and I feel the kids ought to know the type of human being their mother is even if the man wants to continue being their father
TalksofAfrica: Let’s maintain this energy when you find out I have another wife and family.
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