He’s Jobless, I Pay the Rent But I Fear Leaving Him for Another Woman

A young woman has sparked debate on social media after sharing her frustration over being the sole provider in her five-year relationship.

According to her anonymous post, she and her boyfriend live together, splitting rent and expenses.

However, with him being unemployed, she often bears the financial burden alone, covering rent, food, and other necessities.

She revealed that while her boyfriend keeps assuring her that things will improve, he repeatedly quits jobs, either citing unfriendly bosses or unsuitability.

His apparent lack of urgency has left her exhausted and questioning their future.

Adding to her dilemma, she admitted that financially stable men frequently show interest in her, but she turns them down out of loyalty.

Meanwhile, her friends insist she is allowing her boyfriend to “block her shine” and that she deserves better.

Her frustration has deepened as she now feels embarrassed when he borrows money from friends.

While she fears leaving him and later seeing another woman benefit from the struggles she endured, she also wonders how much longer she can continue.

Now, she is seeking advice: Should she remain hopeful and wait for him to change, or is it time to move on?

The post has since ignited discussions online, with opinions divided over whether she should prioritise love or financial stability.

Read her post below;

“Anonymous please

I need honest opinions on this situation.

I’ve been with my boyfriend for close to five years, and we live together, sharing rent and expenses. The problem is, he’s unemployed, and I’ve been the one feeding him and handling almost everything financially. Sometimes, I even have to pay the rent by myself. He keeps telling me things will get better, but whenever he gets a job, he either complains that the owner isn’t friendly or says the job doesn’t suit him. It feels like he’s too relaxed, and I’m honestly tired.

Meanwhile, I’ve been meeting big men—financially stable men—who show interest in me. But I always block them because I’m in a relationship. My friends keep telling me that I’ve allowed my boyfriend to ‘block my shine’ and that I deserve better.

It’s now getting to the point where I feel embarrassed when he has to borrow money from friends. I don’t want to leave him and later see another woman enjoying the benefits of everything I’ve endured with him. But at the same time, I don’t know if I can keep doing this.

I’m confused. Should I continue holding on, hoping he changes, or should I leave? What would you do in my situation?”