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Young woman lived with her sister and sister’s husband after school; he employed her in his shop.
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The husband began pressuring her with sexual demands in exchange for supporting her education.
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He sexually assaulted her (she woke to him fingering her); he threatened that “no one will believe you.”
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She moved out, struggled for three years (jobs, finances), and avoided telling others because her sister trusted her husband.
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Her sister now says she can return home if she wants help, but the woman fears being assaulted again and is unsure what to do.
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She wants to continue her education but is trapped between safety concerns and lack of support.
A young woman who once relied on her sister’s household for support is now caught between fear and a desperate wish to finish school.
After moving in with her sister, she began working in the shop run by her sister’s husband. At first he appeared kind, paid small tips, and promised to support her education — but his kindness quickly turned sinister.
When her sister was away, the husband made a condition: he would finance her schooling only if she slept with him whenever he demanded. She refused, but one night — exhausted and believing she was safe — she woke to him sexually assaulting her.
He warned her that “no one will believe you,” and the shame and fear of not being believed forced her to leave the home.
For three years she has struggled alone: searching for jobs, moving between friends’ houses and a village, and surviving without the education she hoped for.
Recently she reached back to her sister for help; her sister agreed to assist but only if the woman returns to live with them — a prospect that terrifies her because the husband is the abuser and her sister trusts him.
Now she faces an impossible choice: accept help and risk further abuse, or stay away and keep fighting for independence while her education and future hang in the balance. She wants to study, but she’s unsure where to turn and afraid that telling others will bring disbelief and more harm.
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” So I’ve been fortunate to have my sisters support for several years while I stayed with her. Everything was great in my first year in shs. She got married to a business man when I got to shs 2 and the husband treated me like a family. So during vacation I work for him as a sales girl at his shop and was officially employed after completing shs. The husband doesn’t pay me as a worker but gives me tips which I was okay with,cause they were the people taking care of my needs and everything. I became close to the husband more because of the work and I tell him everything about my life cause I didn’t have any friend around and my sister was in school. I had dreams of continuing my education and told my sister about it but since she got married,she wouldn’t give me any money unless the husband approves it and she tells everything I tell her to the husband which made me stopped having convo with her. Ff a year had passed and there was no sign of me going to school, cause the man didn’t want me to. So i talked to my sister about it and she spoke with the husband and he said he was going to finance my education. I bought forms and got admission in the university but this man gave me condition while my sister was away. He said if I want him to finance my education, then i have to be sleeping with him whenever he needs my services. I was left in shock and disbelieve cause this man looked so innocent and was highly respected. I couldn’t say a word and told my sister i wanted to leave to the village but couldn’t tell her the reason cause who was going to believe me. One day I was really tired from work and I slept off without locking my door and I woke up with the man fingering me. I was soo pissed and what he said was ‘no one will believe you when you tell them’ I cried the whole night and finally mastered the courage to move out even though i knew I wasn’t going to get help anywhere. I told her for the second time and she finally agreed for me to leave. I left and started searching for job and sent my cv to some companies but i couldn’t get any job after 1 month of staying with a friend in the city. I later moved to the village and things were really tough for me. I’m trying my best but is just not enough. It’s been three years since I completed shs and last year I called my sister and told her how life was treating me and that i needed her help. She said i should come stay with them if I want them to help. I’m confused right now cause nobody will believe me if I tell them and as for my sister, she trust the husband soo much. But I really want to go to school. ”
