Girlfriend breaks up with 40-year-old boyfriend over fertitlity issues

In a heart-wrenching tale of love, loss, and the relentless pursuit of parenthood, a man in his early 40s opens up about his decade-long relationship that ended due to infertility issues. The man, who prefers to remain anonymous, shares his deeply personal journey of hope and heartbreak.

For ten years, he dated a woman he deeply loved, with dreams of building a family together. Their path to marriage seemed clear until they faced a devastating obstacle: they were unable to conceive a child.

The couple underwent extensive medical tests and treatments, seeking help from both doctors and traditional healers, but nothing worked. The strain of their situation began to weigh heavily on their relationship.

“As a man, I was scared and felt immense pressure,” he confessed. “I decided to delay the marriage to focus on finding a solution to our fertility issues.”

During this period of uncertainty, his girlfriend also became confused and, in her search for answers, started considering marriage with another man—a family friend’s son.

The man’s worst fears were confirmed when he discovered her plans to move on. Feeling betrayed and unsupported by her family, who knew of their marriage plans yet encouraged her new relationship, he made the painful decision to end their relationship.

“It was a hard decision, but I felt I had no other choice,” he said, his voice tinged with sorrow.

Now, years later, the fear of repeating this painful experience haunts him. He remains hopeful about finding love and starting a family but faces a new dilemma: the women he meets are reluctant to consider pregnancy before marriage. This unresolved fear continues to cause him anxiety, making it difficult to move forward.

“I am scared that what I went through could happen again,” he admitted. “It’s really eating me up as a man of my age with no child.”

Seeking advice, he reaches out to others who may have faced similar struggles, hoping to find a way to overcome his fears and fulfill his dream of fatherhood.

“Can someone help me with advice on how to get over this?” he pleads. “I want to move on, but I need to know we can have children.”

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“Am a man in my early 40s and I dated a lady for 10 years we wanted to get married n realized we both cnt conceive so we took lots of tests n medications frm both doctors n native but nothing worked for us. Honestly as a man I got scared n waited a bit on da marriage to emphasize on hw we cn get pregnant. During that time my lady also got confused and started looking for marriage elsewhere which I later got to know she met another man(Borga) who happens to be a son of her father’s friend. Immediately | realized that I also called for separation because since the parent knew we are almost getn marriage n they still support her to see another man I had to leave. Was a hard decision for me but I did.
Now it has become scary for me to marry a woman without getn to know we can get pregnant or not. But all the ladies I meet also dnt wnt to get pregnant bfr marriage. And due to that l also get scared what I went through cld happen again. Can someone help me with advice to get over this because its really eating me up as a man of my age with no child.”