A Nigerian woman has recounted her surprising experience dating a divorced man for two months, revealing how his obsessive cleanliness ultimately drove her away.
Ann Amos shared her story on Facebook, detailing the extent of his need for order and hygiene, which made her feel uncomfortable and “dirty” in his presence.
The man had a strict set of cleanliness rules that governed their interactions. For instance, he kept a bin in his car specifically for any litter, and if Ann accidentally dropped something outside, he would stop the vehicle to pick it up.
This meticulousness permeated their daily lives; she felt she couldn’t even relax at home, as he insisted on certain sleepwear like panties or joggers and had a specific way for handling personal items.
In one instance, when her friend visited, she placed her bag on the couch only to be chastised for possibly introducing germs from public places.
The man had numerous fresh towels ready for guests, emphasizing his aversion to sharing, and he insisted that they use only new ones each time they visited.
To maintain his standards, he kept spotless white slippers at the entrance to monitor guests’ cleanliness.
In the kitchen, he would check her methods while cooking, often preferring to do the cooking himself. Handwashing was a frequent requirement, adding to the pressure Ann felt in maintaining his cleanliness expectations.
Ultimately, Ann recognized that his obsessive behavior was a key factor in his previous marriage ending. Unable to cope with the constraints, she decided to end the relationship.
Her story highlights how differing personal habits can significantly affect the dynamics of a relationship, underscoring the need for compatibility in romantic partnerships.
“I dated one divorcee for barely two months, He was obsessed with neatness, I basically felt dirty around him. You can take a drive with him and probably throw a chocolate or snack leather out the window, him go park go pick am, he has a bin in his car.
“You can’t even sleep without panties, asin you must wear pant or joggers, only nighty no go work.
You can’t drop your handbag on the chair. My girlfriend and I went to his place one time, and she kept her bag on the hand of the couch, he told her to drop it on the floor cause the bag can be carrying germs considering she uses it in public.
Him no dey share towel, he has dozens of new towels. Everytime him get visitor, you go get new towel wey you go carry dey go. He keeps pure white slippers at his door entrance, so that he can tell when your legs are dirty and whether or not the cleaner cleans the house well.
He inspects you when you’re cooking, to make sure you are clean..
And he cooks well too, so most times he prefer cooking himself.
You wash your hands every damn time..
Omoh I understood why he was divorced… I ran for my life.”
Source: NewsandVibes.com